Hijabi Prostitute?!

That was one provoking title :D. I know. Have you ever heard about it? Apparently, it is a term used by some guys to define some hijabi. I was a bit shocked. I never thought that such term exists and yes, sadly, guys are talking about us, hijabis, behind our backs. 🙄 Well, actually that is called gossiping and negative thinking, but hay, guys are human. And let us hijabis just take this newly fact in a positive manners.

I am writing this not to judge how my fellow hijabis wear their hijab or what is their deepful intention on wearing hijab. Wallahy, not at all.. I’m here to support my sisters who is trying to do their best to follow our religious practise. – Go sister go sister go sister go sister (Lady Marmalade MODE : ON) 😀

Not wearing hijab is wrong and wearing hijab as a trend also not right either. Another facts are : gossiping and having bad thoughts or others are wrong, too.

O you who believe, let not people laugh at people, perchance they may be better than they; nor let women (laugh) at women, perchance they may be better than they. Neither find fault with your own people, nor call one another by nick-names. Evil is a bad name after faith; and whoso turns not, these it is that are the iniquitous.
O you who believe, avoid most of suspicion, for surely suspicion in some cases is sin; and spy not nor let some of you backbite others. Does one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You abhor it! And keep your duty to Allah, surely Allah is Oft-returning (to mercy), Merciful. [Al Hujurat : 11-12]

And yes, there are several opinions regarding hijab limitation. My sisters may think, contemplate, and choose which one to follow. I love all my hijabi sisters, with abayas, niqabs, or loose jeans, etc. And there is also a weak opinion I found that hijab is not obligatory, well, I don’t follow that one :wink:.

And say to the faithful women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts, and not to display their beauty except what is apparent of it, and to extend their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs), and not to display their beauty except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together, O you the faithful, in order that you are successful [An Nur : 31]

“Ayesha (radi-Allahu anha) reported that Asma’ the daughter of Abu Bakr (radi-Allahu anhu) came to the Messenger of Allah salallahu alaihi wasalam while wearing thin clothing. He approached her and said: ‘O Asma’! When a girl reaches the menstrual age, it is not proper that anything should remain exposed except this and this. He pointed to the face and hands.” [Abu Dawud]

Now, have you guys seen the fashion development these days? White skin, big full glossy mouth, long legs, etc. To decide wearing hijab is hard. And the decision might change the whole direction of someone’s life, and also carrying a mountain on our backs. We should encourage our sisters to be strong, not to be fooled by that male dominated fashion industry, that we need to show 90% of our skin to be pretty, to be acknowledged. When they make mistakes while wearing the hijab, we should remind them where they went wrong… nicely.

Invite (mankind, O Muhammad) to the Way of your Lord (Islâm) with wisdom (i.e. with the Divine Inspiration and the Qur’ân) and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better. Truly, your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Path, and He is the Best Aware of those who are guided. [An Nahl : 125]

You see, that’s the way to make dawaa, to be nice and acceptable, not frightening 😉 Don’t make Islam looks frightening and stupid.

Also to be a serious da’ee, we need to look nice, clean, and soothing. If you wear hijab, make sure the colours match your socks :lol:. Can you imagine, purple socks, yellow slippers, pink skirt, neon green shirt, flowery orange hijab. Oh my God! That is a serious fashion crime! 😀 Also, make sure that you don’t stink, not too much perfume too, just be neutral.

And for guys, when you have that beard. Please.. beard is not everything. You can have it “huge”, but make it neat. Remember if the huge of beard is what makes a man a good muslim, then Dumbledore from Harry Potter series will be the best muslim alive, he has that giant beard to his knees. Hmmmm… 😀 Be clean, and easy for everyone’s eyes.

Back to hijabi prostitute kind of thing. Do you know what is a prostitute means? It means somebody who sells sex. When you point out that a hijabi is being a prostitute, you are accusing her the worst word ever. Even a professional prostitute will be offended when you call them, “Hi, prostitute, how are you today?”. Now how could you call a hijabi in that bad bad name? That is a serious accusation, people.. 👿

Verily, those who accuse chaste women, who never even think of anything touching their chastity and are good believers, are cursed in this life and in the Hereafter, and for them will be a great torment [An Nur : 23]

Can you imagine how hard it is for a mini-skirt girl to wear abaya? Can you imagine how hard it is to enjoy the beach with hijab while everyone is wearing a bikinis? Can’t you at least respect them? Respect their victory against their desire? When they still have some weaknesses here and there, remind them nicely and make dua for them.

Hijabis may not appear nice? Muslima fashionista is haram? Now this, I will say this over and over again. Do not make Islam looks stupid by fighting each other about flowery hijab is too atrractive and so it is haram. If you don’t agree with it, simply don’t follow it. It is sunnatullah for woman to love beauty. So, by being a sharia standarized fashonista, is another form of dawaa. I do believe as long as my fellow fashionista remains their style adventure inside the circle of sharia, then it is okay.

Stop trashing muslima. Try to use hijab for one week, and see if it is easy for you to do. Respect their struggle, and pray for them.

Wallahu alam bishawab.

And say to the faithful women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts, and not to display their beauty except what is apparent of it, and to extend their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs), and not to display their beauty except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together, O you the faithful, in order that you are successful
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  1. #1 by fathya on February 6, 2011 - 4:57 pm

    Salam,
    this is a very good post too.
    we should support everyone who is trying.
    sometimes, that’s the best the can do, or that’s how they understand it.
    by being rude, we fail to deliver our purposes.
    Thank you for writing this, you are really likeable, nice quality,
    xo

    • #2 by rialive on February 6, 2011 - 5:08 pm

      wa alaikum salam,
      exactly, we need to be more supportive 😀
      xo

  2. #3 by mona on December 26, 2010 - 9:29 am

    gud point, Beautiful
    But there are various opinions of hijab restrictions.
    You know some sisters follow niqab opinion, abaya opinion, or no matter what is the style as long as this and that opinion..
    what you need to underline is, we have to be objective.
    clothes dont define iman and taqwa.
    i’ve met several hateful hearted naqabis who are so vocal abt their niqab without manners and rude, and i think thats normal bcoz thats the only thing she can be proud about. 😉
    And you, with flowery shirt and trousers and skirts are so kind and yes, i may say, inspirational. I’m proud to have met you and know you in person.

    so yes, we have to stick and support each other for this, remind each other, stop trashing and su’uzon towads our sisters.
    people have different level of understanding and no need to talk rude, just simply approach them and guide them to be better.

    hugs!
    *i’ve been thinking to have my own blog, but with babies and all… ah well 😀

    • #4 by rialive on December 26, 2010 - 9:49 am

      Kak Mona, i learn a lot from you, seriously..

      And about the opinion differences between scholars..
      Now this is what we have to be clear. Scholars never fight each other although they have different opinions about certain issues, they obviously respect each other. They know that there is possibility for them to be wrong.
      The ones who fight are their followers.
      Why?
      I don’t have enough qualification to judge it psychologically, but sometimes people are too concerned about certain issues and make them forget to announce their thoughts in good manners.

      Wallahu alam bishawab

      hugs back atcha, kak Mona.. And when you decide to have a blog, lemme know!

  3. #5 by mike on December 25, 2010 - 8:59 pm

    Hi, Ree..
    As I told you, we didnt say that to every hijabis, specially not to you, you know how we boys respect you so much.
    And we also dont trash muslima, Ree.
    They trash themselves. Have you seen muslima in cafes? smoking while other people around her drink alcohol?
    I merely told you that because of the cursing muslim blog and well… yeah some poeple needs to have some bricks thrown on their heads 😀 to give them some common sense.
    But what you said is also true, changing a life style is hard, and they are probably doing their best at the moment.
    And I’m not religious too, it’s just (once again you’re right) in our minds, we give too much expectations on woman with hijab.

    nice post, ree.

    • #6 by rialive on December 25, 2010 - 9:09 pm

      Thank you, Mike..
      You are right too,
      When somebody doesn’t do something ideally, it doesn’t mean they don’t try to do it the best way they can, at the moment.

      😀

  4. #7 by jnana on December 25, 2010 - 2:09 am

    Hmm yeah you’re right that’s a very judgmental label! We all have our faults, let’s concentrate on our own first!

    • #8 by rialive on December 25, 2010 - 12:30 pm

      It is a very very judgmental label..
      Nauzubillahi min zalik..

      May we all be better, and we should encourage each other nicely and pray for each other as well..

      😉

  5. #9 by UmmUmarNY on December 25, 2010 - 12:43 am

    Dear Rialive, “Prostitute” is a strong word indeed…. and definitively NOT to be used lightly…. yet, I DO at times consider using it as well… Please don’t jump on me, let me explain!!! When I see these ‘hijabi’ sisters on a matrimonial site…. and I see how they ‘behave’ while chatting with a prospect ‘guy’… It’s DISGUSTING!!!!! You can even go on Facebook…. and see these sisters proudly wearing their Hijabs in their pictures… tons and tons and tons of pictures… in every angle… showing off their ‘adornments’ for the whole world to see and complement!!! Astaghfirullah… that’s when the term rightly fits the person!!!! Allah(swt) created MAN ‘weak’ in his ‘sight’… and that is the reason we are asked to ‘cover’… Allha(swt) created a WOMAN ‘weak’ to the ‘touch’ and ‘hearing’… that is why we are asked to SEPARATE and limit contact with males… What happens today is outrageous!!!! Yes, to wear the scarf is quite an accomplishment.. I’m a convert, I’ve been there, I’ve felt it!! BUT that does not in any way justify the BEHAVIOR of women with regards to the opposite sex and their HAYAAH!!!!! ..that ‘shyness’, that ‘reserve’.. BOTH IN SPEECH AND APPEARANCE which constitutes the word HIJAAB!!!! Hijaab is not just a piece of cloth to cover our hair… it should mold the whole person into behaving in a dignified manner… whether in public, in private, and MOSTLY, while having webcam/chatting sessions with Non-Mahram men… So in conclusion… It’s very sad to admit.. but there ARE some out there who fit this description… 😦

    • #10 by rialive on December 25, 2010 - 12:28 pm

      Dear Umm Umar,
      Well, as long as you don’t throw the words to everyone 😉
      And yes, i do agree with you that some muslima went out of line to show off their ‘adornments’.
      And also yes, we should remind them, nicely, as I quoted from Qur’an, An Nahl ayah 125.
      Sitting next to them and tell them, hay you are trying to make yourself a commodity by thos pictures, directly. Without knowing their names, without knowing how they live and what kind of fight they’re making inside, is not fair.
      What I learned from my experience, we have to know them so we know the right way to approach them.
      Or discussing about them behind their back, judging and all.. also not fair.. 😥
      Remember, people are different. 😉

      And also, how do you know the way people behave in chat? 😆 high tech sister!! 😀

      Alhamdulillah, may Allah be pleased with what you have accomplished.

      I just want to support our sisters and may Allah help us all to be better in His Opinion. Amin.

      Wallahu alam bishawab

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