That was one provoking title :D. I know. Have you ever heard about it? Apparently, it is a term used by some guys to define some hijabi. I was a bit shocked. I never thought that such term exists and yes, sadly, guys are talking about us, hijabis, behind our backs. 🙄 Well, actually that is called gossiping and negative thinking, but hay, guys are human. And let us hijabis just take this newly fact in a positive manners.
I am writing this not to judge how my fellow hijabis wear their hijab or what is their deepful intention on wearing hijab. Wallahy, not at all.. I’m here to support my sisters who is trying to do their best to follow our religious practise. – Go sister go sister go sister go sister (Lady Marmalade MODE : ON) 😀 –
Not wearing hijab is wrong and wearing hijab as a trend also not right either. Another facts are : gossiping and having bad thoughts or others are wrong, too.
O you who believe, let not people laugh at people, perchance they may be better than they; nor let women (laugh) at women, perchance they may be better than they. Neither find fault with your own people, nor call one another by nick-names. Evil is a bad name after faith; and whoso turns not, these it is that are the iniquitous.
O you who believe, avoid most of suspicion, for surely suspicion in some cases is sin; and spy not nor let some of you backbite others. Does one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You abhor it! And keep your duty to Allah, surely Allah is Oft-returning (to mercy), Merciful. [Al Hujurat : 11-12]
And yes, there are several opinions regarding hijab limitation. My sisters may think, contemplate, and choose which one to follow. I love all my hijabi sisters, with abayas, niqabs, or loose jeans, etc. And there is also a weak opinion I found that hijab is not obligatory, well, I don’t follow that one :wink:.
And say to the faithful women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts, and not to display their beauty except what is apparent of it, and to extend their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs), and not to display their beauty except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together, O you the faithful, in order that you are successful [An Nur : 31]
“Ayesha (radi-Allahu anha) reported that Asma’ the daughter of Abu Bakr (radi-Allahu anhu) came to the Messenger of Allah salallahu alaihi wasalam while wearing thin clothing. He approached her and said: ‘O Asma’! When a girl reaches the menstrual age, it is not proper that anything should remain exposed except this and this. He pointed to the face and hands.” [Abu Dawud]
Now, have you guys seen the fashion development these days? White skin, big full glossy mouth, long legs, etc. To decide wearing hijab is hard. And the decision might change the whole direction of someone’s life, and also carrying a mountain on our backs. We should encourage our sisters to be strong, not to be fooled by that male dominated fashion industry, that we need to show 90% of our skin to be pretty, to be acknowledged. When they make mistakes while wearing the hijab, we should remind them where they went wrong… nicely.
Invite (mankind, O Muhammad) to the Way of your Lord (Islâm) with wisdom (i.e. with the Divine Inspiration and the Qur’ân) and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better. Truly, your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Path, and He is the Best Aware of those who are guided. [An Nahl : 125]
You see, that’s the way to make dawaa, to be nice and acceptable, not frightening 😉 Don’t make Islam looks frightening and stupid.
Also to be a serious da’ee, we need to look nice, clean, and soothing. If you wear hijab, make sure the colours match your socks :lol:. Can you imagine, purple socks, yellow slippers, pink skirt, neon green shirt, flowery orange hijab. Oh my God! That is a serious fashion crime! 😀 Also, make sure that you don’t stink, not too much perfume too, just be neutral.
And for guys, when you have that beard. Please.. beard is not everything. You can have it “huge”, but make it neat. Remember if the huge of beard is what makes a man a good muslim, then Dumbledore from Harry Potter series will be the best muslim alive, he has that giant beard to his knees. Hmmmm… 😀 Be clean, and easy for everyone’s eyes.
Back to hijabi prostitute kind of thing. Do you know what is a prostitute means? It means somebody who sells sex. When you point out that a hijabi is being a prostitute, you are accusing her the worst word ever. Even a professional prostitute will be offended when you call them, “Hi, prostitute, how are you today?”. Now how could you call a hijabi in that bad bad name? That is a serious accusation, people.. 👿
Verily, those who accuse chaste women, who never even think of anything touching their chastity and are good believers, are cursed in this life and in the Hereafter, and for them will be a great torment [An Nur : 23]
Can you imagine how hard it is for a mini-skirt girl to wear abaya? Can you imagine how hard it is to enjoy the beach with hijab while everyone is wearing a bikinis? Can’t you at least respect them? Respect their victory against their desire? When they still have some weaknesses here and there, remind them nicely and make dua for them.
Hijabis may not appear nice? Muslima fashionista is haram? Now this, I will say this over and over again. Do not make Islam looks stupid by fighting each other about flowery hijab is too atrractive and so it is haram. If you don’t agree with it, simply don’t follow it. It is sunnatullah for woman to love beauty. So, by being a sharia standarized fashonista, is another form of dawaa. I do believe as long as my fellow fashionista remains their style adventure inside the circle of sharia, then it is okay.
Stop trashing muslima. Try to use hijab for one week, and see if it is easy for you to do. Respect their struggle, and pray for them.
Wallahu alam bishawab.