Since the post Stop Your Ukhuwah, I tried harder to finish this book review. I will try to make it as simple as possible and still making you all curious about these books. These books are written by Florence Littauer. I suggest you all to read Personality Plus before Personality Puzzle. The books are tied to one another and really helps us to understand ourselves and others. Because, wether we like it or not, we have to communicate with people. We have to deliver our message to them and hope they can understand it. Sometimes, we easily give up and think the devil inside this certain person is too fat, can’t get rid of it easily 🙂 But think about it, is our communication failed because people are too stupid to understand us, or our methods are wrong? Usually the methods, right? 😀
On these books, we will find out the basic character of human being. What motivates people and how to deliver message to them. But mostly, the books will help us to categorize ourselves. By understanding ourselves, we know when we reject the truth out of selfishness and we know when we want people to do what we want for the sake of righteousness or only for the sake of proving we are better than them. When we practice this by ‘studying’ people around us, we would know what their characteristics almost instantly only by the clothes they wear, the missing buttons of their shirt, how their body moves when they talked, etc. Seriously, this is a very interesting book to read. And, we know what is our emotional qualities and weaknesses and how to make them as power. Because when we have very little understanding of ourselves, it is going to be harder for us to understand others and deliver our message.
Florence explained in these books, that there are 4 basic characters or personalities of human being, they are sanguine, choleric, melancholic, phlegmatic. This truly can help us interact better. For example, a choleric who is naturally aggressive might want to be softer when he wants to deliver his message to an anxious melancholic. Or a passive phlegmatic will realize when his passive and easy to be satisfied personality distract him from better chances in life. You know, things like that 😀 The simple quadrant of the characters can be shown like the following pictures, but as always, books are better than the movies and books are better than the reviews 😀
The book also have personal test at the back and the numbers are pretty accurate. Seriously these books are fun!! This will make you understand your employees, friends, family, and everybody better. This will help you to decide which ways are best to deliver your message to people.
Since I am trapped on making my blog as Islamic one, I will share again this article that explains how Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wasalam understands his people precisely. These books are not holy books, but they can help us better in manner, and making our point to people. When we deliver the truth to others in ways they can’t accept, it will be useless. We are a complex emotional creation. Which is cool 🙂
And after taking the test, I am a combination of sanguine-choleric. That’s why it is hard to talk to me sometimes. I am so stubborn and would aggressively debating, sanguine is talkactive and choleric is aggressive? (I am better now by the way 😀 ) Have you read the books? Tell me, which one are you?