Salam alaikum, sister Ria.
I am surprised to know that you didn’t attack the person who cursed you to jahannam back! Don’t you feel angry?! I don’t know how you do that. I really love debating and sometimes I couldn’t help it, it is so easy for me to say bad words while having an intense debate.
Wa alaikum salam, sister FH ♥
I know, I am so surprise, too. But I didn’t regret for not being angry, expressing anger makes you tired, don’t you think? 😀
But to tell you the truth, I used to love debating out of my lungs. I used to have this reason : “Well, debating is not a huge sin”. 😀 But at the end, I always regret doing it and I always end up hating myself. I hate hating myself. 😥
So I made a promise:
1. I will not debate a person who is clearly have more knowledge than me and clearly have proven themselves in reality because it will keep me from learning their knowledge that I might get benefit from. 😀
2. I will not debate a person who is clearly have no knowledge but very confident, because it will make them happy to express their useless thoughts over and over again. 😀
3. I will not debate rude people with more or less knowledge than me. Because rude people is like a trash can, doesn’t matter if it’s empty or full, it is still a trash can. 😀
And of course, we feel angry. I get angry easily. But I promise that I will never again use my anger to humiliate myself. Nope, never again. So when you feel so angry, sister FH, don’t say anything, just hold your tounge and zip your mouth. 😀 After you calm down, by taking wudu’, pray, dhikr, etc, deliver your thoughts with patience. If they can’t accept, just leave them.
And please always remember this hadith,
On the authority of Abu Umamah, may Allah be pleased with him, who narrated that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for he who leaves arguing even if he is right; and a house in the middle of Paradise for he who leaves lying even when joking; and a house in the highest part of Paradise for he who makes his character excellent.” [Abu Dawud]
As my old posts said, Paradise is a confirmation that Allah subhana wa taala loves us. And I also made a promise that I will do everything to get and worthy of that confirmation. It is very hard, sister FH, I admit it. But I am sure it is worth it. Now let’s make that promise and we will fight together. It will be less scarier in the dark when you have a friend, right?
May Allah make it easy on us, sister FH. Jazakillahi khair for visiting my blog. You’re one of my favorite! Much love! ♥