Alhamdulillah, my Ramadhan was great, and my Eid was crowded. I felt like I wanted to talk all about my Ramadhan and Eid experience but I have one urgent issue to ramble about 😀 Rejecting marriage proposals — hooooo —. This is a serious issue that some women loves to brag about, you know, how popular and pretty they are by the authentic proof of so many proposals they are considering and rejecting — yah, I know some of them 😀 — I have some reflection that I wanted to share later but let me shout this out to the world : SOME GUYS ARE STOOPID!! — *sigh* finally I said it —
So, I rejected another 2 proposals during last Ramadhan. And I don’t know, these two guys seemed to conspire against me! They both have the same nickname for me : extremist — hahaha — Since it’s been a while for me not to write, I think I will let my words just flow. One of the guys, has this perfect chocolate milk skin, he’s very handsome — I did try to lower my gaze but what can I do… At some seconds I did see him, okay… Maybe minutes — And another one knows how to buy perfume and shoes. Those are the positive part of the story and definitely were not the reasons of me rejecting them. Here you go.
1. The handsome choco milk guy’s family asked for dowry.
So, the guy is not as religious as I was expected, but not bad, he is trying to be better — or so how the people around him said —. Plus, he does not smoke — so hard to find one here, subhanAllah — So, he asked me what my dowry is 😀 Me, seriously I don’t need a man to afford me, I can afford myself. I don’t need another man to protect me, I have 3 brothers to do that. So, I told him what the dowry was and since it was so easy he was happy. But then… his family asked (to be exact, insisted) for dowry from me, at least USD $10,000. — clearing throat —
I was like….. WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
The reason was, this man is highly educated, his family invested a lot on his education so they think it will be such a waste if the rest of his life will be spent for a girl. The girl will just enjoy the effort, so she needs to pay for the good future ahead. Not that I couldn’t afford it, don’t get me wrong, but haaaaay… that is just so wrong in many level. So, they think he will not be as lucky to have ME? Huh?! So, no thank you very much.
2. The guy with nice perfume and great shoes… smokes cigarettes like Hogwarts School of Wizard Train.
Smoking is haram. No more explanation on why I hate it.
And when azan comes, he just sat there and blew smoke. The masjid is only 3 minutes walk. And he just sat there… Probably waiting for the imam calls him by name and scream, “We will not start the salah without you!!”
And they both called me extremist for not willing to negotiate with the culture and civilization. Apparently, now, it is okay for girls giving dowry to men since she will get so much in return after marriage. And apparently, smoking is the sign of masculinity — this kind of man needs to meet some gays that smokes —, and salah needs not to be done on time, we can do it within times, we can delay…
I’ve been rejecting proposals, but these were I think most annoying ones because they are trying to convince me that my consideration is wrong!! They were insulting my intelligence!! Seriously?! My intelligence?! And this guy keeps messaging me to my Blackberry of wise advice on why smoking is allowed in Islam because we need to adapt, we need to embrace the speed of civilization. Okay, deleted from contacts, alhamdulillah..
My teacher once told me, I do not need to lower my standard, I only need to increase my quality to be worthy of the kind of man. And the fact that one died, one stucked on his place for political reasons, and one needed to make his parents happy by marrying his cousin 😆 My time had not come yet, don’t push it… I believe her, I do ♥
Okay enough ramblings for tonight, they can call me extremist, whatever…
InshaAllah next time I will wear my responsible adult costume and write another post. Much love! ♥