An Egyptian friend of mine, told me this,
“Indonesia is the largest Muslim country in the world, so before the plane landed I was hoping to see hijab all over the place, I was in shocked when this first thing I saw was girls with mini skirts wherever the eyes can see.”
I admit, I wasn’t always a hijabi like this. My hijab also transformed in several styles along with my understanding of this beautiful Deen, Alhamdulillah. With that, Alhamdulillah also, I came to realize more and more the ‘whys’. I am now 100% sure that hijab is only sent down to protect us, woman, because Allah loves us all. Allah wants us to be free from being the object of sexual exploitation.
About few weeks ago, the country was shocked about the terminology used by the media “rape season” in Jakarta. It was a scary thing to hear but it was the truth. The statistics of rape cases increases so fast in the last few months. The victims were kidnapped from the public transport, and they were taken to some place and they were abused. The last case that I heard was very sadistic, this woman, was raped by 4 men, that was brutal. I couldn’t even imagine if it happens to me, my sister, my mother, or my female relatives. 😥
And then the city made a new regulation “No Mini Skirts”, in public transport. In my point of view, it is part of solution. Sadly, few days ago, a feminist group then made a demonstration defending their rights on wearing mini-skirts. I laughed and also wanted to cry at the same time. What is happening to these woman? Why don’t they see the whole problems? Before you started to think that I am being judgmental or I have this racism against mini-skirts, please read the entire post.
Yes, wearing everything you want is your personal issue, nobody needs to interfere with that. So does for that girl who was raped by 4 men at a time. Imagine you are living her shoes. The men can possibly be caught, be jailed for years… So what? She is still raped. Okay, lets add up the punishment, let’s give the 4 men, death penalty. So what? She was still raped!
I am not blaming anyone but the rapists. But it was very careless for any women who only wear skirts a little wider than her underwear. Let’s not get to the ‘inviting’ clothes issue, this post might get longer than it should. Yes, men need to control their minds, they need to control their desire. Yes, I agree with that. Even when the country give death penalty to the rapists, I agree with that, too. But when you are the victim, the punishment to men who raped you makes no difference. You experienced the trauma, you experienced the abuse, you experienced the pain, you suffered. Nothing can change that.
If only she travels with someone, if only she cover herself better, if only she brought pepper spray, so many “if onlies”… All meaningless “if only” when you were the victim.
When you want your house to be safe, you will have enough security system. If you are robbed when your doors unlocked, you are helping the robbers to be able to access your treasure easier. Yes, the robbers might get caught, but you still lost your belongings. You will still suffer!
So, feminists, I’m not saying that you don’t have any right to choose what you wear. Don’t get defensive. Nobody wants anything but your safety. When bad things happened to YOU, no one else suffers more than YOU, ALONE! Think about it. Don’t get emotional. No one can forbid you to wear mini skirts, but are you sure it is safe for YOU to wear it EVERYWHERE?!
Cover yourself well, take care of yourself better. FOR YOUR OWN SAFETY!!
Much Love! ♥!