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Alhamdulillah, my last post brings many feedback. Jazakumullah khairan for the support and excitement 😆 and for the people who said I was inspiring, I think I need to explain how I get the idea and who inspires me to do this 🙂
In Indonesia, there is a man called Ustadh Yusuf Mansur. He is concentrating in sadaqah and building “Tahfidh House” (house for learning Qur’an). I would also point out that his work pays so much in such short years, he started to learn about sadaqah in 1998. And now his tahfidh houses reached over 3000 houses and keep counting!! Wallahy, you should read about his life if there is any available in English.
I heard about him a lot, and I followed his story until now. Some people think that he is too extreme. Let me give an example of the people he had helped. There was this man really in need of money for medication, he has no money, and so he came to this Ustadh for solution. You know what he would say? “Give your motorbike for sadaqah”. Or if a man wants his hotel business to expand, he would say ,”Give one of your hotel for sadaqah”. And wallahy, I know many many people who prove this method. If you want something so so so so bad, and no money to get it, give sadaqah!
This Ustadh is practicing two verses from al-Baqarah :
261. The likeness of those who spend their wealth in the Way of Allah, is as the likeness of a grain (of corn); it grows seven ears, and each ear has a hundred grains. Allah gives manifold increase to whom He pleases. And Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knower.
262. Those who spend their wealth in the Cause of Allah, and do not follow up their gifts with reminders of their generosity or with injury, their reward is with their Lord. On them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve.
Literally, in the verse 261, Allah had promised that every sadaqah will be rewarded 700 times! And who keeps their promises better than Allah?!
It’s just amazing. Of course now his knowledge is more than he had before. But can you imagine, this is an international movement! He started it just because he learned few verses and he has so much faith in it, by the help of Allah, he brings changes and solutions for this ummah! Don’t look at his shortcomings, may Allah increase him in knowledge, and forgive all the mistakes he is done, bless him with long blessed life. Aameen!!
That’s why I put faith on it too, it is the promise of Allah! Allah always keeps His promises! I experienced this miracle few times, I couldn’t mention it here, I’m afraid it will cancel my rewards. 🙂
Okay, that’s the man who inspires me to do it.
And last but not least, how to be sincere? I can’t tell you how, I don’t even know that I was sincere or I was not. But look at the verse 262, don’t remind the people and don’t hurt others with your generosity. I think it helps, also by holding our tongue everytime we are tempted to mention the amount of our sadaqah in the intention for motivating people. If they are not motivated by Allah’s Rewards, they will not be motivated by your words too. That’s for sure.
Hope it clears everything.
An Egyptian friend of mine, told me this,
“Indonesia is the largest Muslim country in the world, so before the plane landed I was hoping to see hijab all over the place, I was in shocked when this first thing I saw was girls with mini skirts wherever the eyes can see.”
I admit, I wasn’t always a hijabi like this. My hijab also transformed in several styles along with my understanding of this beautiful Deen, Alhamdulillah. With that, Alhamdulillah also, I came to realize more and more the ‘whys’. I am now 100% sure that hijab is only sent down to protect us, woman, because Allah loves us all. Allah wants us to be free from being the object of sexual exploitation.
About few weeks ago, the country was shocked about the terminology used by the media “rape season” in Jakarta. It was a scary thing to hear but it was the truth. The statistics of rape cases increases so fast in the last few months. The victims were kidnapped from the public transport, and they were taken to some place and they were abused. The last case that I heard was very sadistic, this woman, was raped by 4 men, that was brutal. I couldn’t even imagine if it happens to me, my sister, my mother, or my female relatives. 😥
And then the city made a new regulation “No Mini Skirts”, in public transport. In my point of view, it is part of solution. Sadly, few days ago, a feminist group then made a demonstration defending their rights on wearing mini-skirts. I laughed and also wanted to cry at the same time. What is happening to these woman? Why don’t they see the whole problems? Before you started to think that I am being judgmental or I have this racism against mini-skirts, please read the entire post.
Yes, wearing everything you want is your personal issue, nobody needs to interfere with that. So does for that girl who was raped by 4 men at a time. Imagine you are living her shoes. The men can possibly be caught, be jailed for years… So what? She is still raped. Okay, lets add up the punishment, let’s give the 4 men, death penalty. So what? She was still raped!
I am not blaming anyone but the rapists. But it was very careless for any women who only wear skirts a little wider than her underwear. Let’s not get to the ‘inviting’ clothes issue, this post might get longer than it should. Yes, men need to control their minds, they need to control their desire. Yes, I agree with that. Even when the country give death penalty to the rapists, I agree with that, too. But when you are the victim, the punishment to men who raped you makes no difference. You experienced the trauma, you experienced the abuse, you experienced the pain, you suffered. Nothing can change that.
If only she travels with someone, if only she cover herself better, if only she brought pepper spray, so many “if onlies”… All meaningless “if only” when you were the victim.
When you want your house to be safe, you will have enough security system. If you are robbed when your doors unlocked, you are helping the robbers to be able to access your treasure easier. Yes, the robbers might get caught, but you still lost your belongings. You will still suffer!
So, feminists, I’m not saying that you don’t have any right to choose what you wear. Don’t get defensive. Nobody wants anything but your safety. When bad things happened to YOU, no one else suffers more than YOU, ALONE! Think about it. Don’t get emotional. No one can forbid you to wear mini skirts, but are you sure it is safe for YOU to wear it EVERYWHERE?!
Cover yourself well, take care of yourself better. FOR YOUR OWN SAFETY!!
Much Love! ♥!
Today is 9/11 Ten Years Anniversary. The news are broadcasting about it. New pages on FB appears to remind people about the sad event. FB statuses were about it, the ones who care and the ones who don’t.
For me, as a person who listened to the massacre in Palestine over and over, and lately following the news about drought in Somalia, a long time ago accident doesn’t really move me. I remember how shocked I was 10 years ago and how the analysis of so called smart people on both sides overtaken me, and confusing me. Probably because I don’t have a loved one gone by the accident, probably because it didn’t happen in my country… I can list more ‘probablies’, but the point is, I cared … but now it’s done so it’s done.
I love all my friends on Facebook, specially the ones that I keep for years, no matter what their religious ideals are, political views are, I respect their sadness, specially since I don’t know if the event hit them personally. I just think this 9/11 issue is over-commercialized and seriously there are more important issues to deal with even in that particular country itself, United States.
But with the so called accomplishment their government done by killing the Osama guy. People really needed to be reminded about how awful it was and hay, they got the man who did it and guess what, the election is coming up so let’s re-fresh their memories about the accomplishments we had done, exploit their sadness, and let them forget more important issues happening in the country. I am a skeptic at times…
So, Alhamdulillah, a Facebook page gave me a relieving post on another view of 9/11. Shaikh Navaid Aziz page posted this,
“But if they repent, establish prayer, and give zakah, then they are your brothers in religion; and We detail the verses for a people who know.” 9:11
Now I can go continue my day having another perspective about the words, nine eleven. Alhamdulillah! Yay for Shaikh Navaid Aziz!
This is one of the Ramadhan phenomenon that I noted — italic, bold,
underline, font color : RED — I had this massive intention to write about this on my blog, subhanAllah…
Who doesn’t know this super cute looking guy, his name is Maher Zein. Caramel skin, well dressed, killing smile, good teeth, pretty eyes, beautiful voice and looking so Islamic. Oh yes, I know him. I saw him being posted over and over in facebook, my friends profile picture is his smiling face, and I saw his video clip called “InshaAllah” played in a public transport on Ramadhan when I got home from work, that was also the first time I listened to his one full song.
I never listened to music by intention anymore, why? I wrote it on this post. But sometimes I don’t have any choice from TV commercials, public transport, public places, etc. Alhamdulillah Qur’an recitation on my phone made me happy and really helped me on my stressed hours. I also take my headphones anywhere on long drive, to avoid my brain to be exposed to music along the way. So, since Maher Zein era, I never really listened to him. I have curiosity, but alhamdulillah I never fell into that trap.
Why am I writing this? I’m gonna share few experience regarding ‘Maher Zein’ 🙂
One of my friend, call her ‘A’, she had this rush to buy the original CDs, which was a bit difficult to find since it was Ramadhan, ‘religious music’ sale was rocketing to the seventh sky, subhanAllah. So, she went to this store over and over and over to spy on the CD, if it’s available or not. She was extremely excited to buy eventhough she had all songs on her phone.
I was like, this is no difference compare to me a long time ago having Jon Bon Jovi fever. What’s the difference? These guys made girls crazy, they are like ‘rock star’ — well, Bon Jovi IS a rock star, but even if Maher Zein is ‘islamically packaged’ the level of craziness that these guys spread to the ladies are all the same —
My cousin, she has the music on her cell-phone. She listened to it over and over and over. She know how a great of a father Maher Zein is — before that, I thought he was single 😀 how did she know? let it remains a mystery —, how beautiful his voice is, how handsome he is, how cool the way he dressed is, how intoxicating his smile is, and at last but not least how noble is the lyrics he sings :p
Her husband, looked at me with this painful look… And I knew that he was jealous — poor guy —
I don’t know about what happened in another part of the world, but here, Maher Zein is HUGE!! Everyone, young, old, woman, men, and everything in between are super crazy about him. This guy, Maher Zein, is an industrial product. He is a character, his image is created so commercially, his look is polished to please the eyes, and give him Islamic touch and there you go, the product is ready to sale. He is a celebrity in a music industry. That’s a fact. No, he is not a da’ee.
I will not going to push my opinions to people not to listen to this cute guy anymore. But I want to challenge everyone out there with these questions.
1. If he is not so cute, will you be so addicted?
2. Is it true, by listening him makes you remember Allah more? Or makes you love him more?
3. If it is the message of Allah subhana wa taala you truly love, give me one reason why you listen to him more than you listen to Qur’an?
We need alternatives of entertainment, I know. But this is too much. 😀
Waiting for your respond. Much love! ♥
This is a very sensitive issue, gossip. I know, I know, some of us really don’t want to talk about this, because then we have to admit that gossiping is actually an addiction. We just stay away from this issue and take it like a normal thing, right? Been there and still fighting to get out from it, subhanAllah, it is sooooo hard!!
We live in a gossip-orientated society so naturally almost everyone loves to gossip. Many do it and do not even realize it because it is second nature for them. Men and women are both guilty of it, but women tend to get the blame, and we have to admit it, we love it, right? No offense, Sisters.. Brothers gossip, too… but us, Sisters, we kinda crave for it. LOL
So, what is the definition of ‘gossip’? Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wasalam had clearly explained it in hadith,
Prophet Muhammad said :”Do you know what backbiting is?” They said, “God and His Messenger know best.” He then said, “It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike.” Someone asked him, “But what if what I say is true?” The Messenger of God said, “If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him.“ [Muslim]
So, just like another kind of addiction, gossiping needs treatment. I’m going to share some applicable steps for us to stop this bad habit. I hope, by me, a Sister, will make it easier for us all to realize that this is an extremely serious issue. Come on, who loves some guys with huge beard telling us what to do while they don’t know how hard it is to avoid this habit as a woman? This is a huge issue! But… GRRRRH! so hard to avoid in the world of woman, guys just don’t understand!
“Behold, you received it on your tongues, and said out of your mouths things which you had no knowledge; and you thought it to be a light matter, while it was most serious in the sight of God” [An Noor (24): 15]
So, these are the steps, people :
→ Avoid suspicions and analyzing why people act the way they do.
Come on, we’re not a psychologist, we don’t have enough basic foundations to analyze people’s behavior, let the experts do that. And plus we need to keep a wise words in mind from the early great scholars of Muslim, Hamdun al-Qassar, he said;
“If a friend among your friends errs, make seventy excuses for them. If your hearts are unable to do this, then know that the shortcoming is in your own selves”
Wise man, mashaAllah …
→ Stop going to places that we are prone to gossip.
So, if we know that getting on the phone with a friend is going to turn into a gossip hour then we have to find a way to eliminate it by either not answering the phone or cutting the conversation short. We may have to do this until we undo our bad habit. And good thing is, we will save more money on phone bill also more time reading books 😀
→ Do it silently
When we tell our gossip buddy that we will never gossip anymore, it will not going to do us any good. So keep it inside our own head, if we find ourselves in a conversation with a gossip buddy, although we may have no other choice but to listen, do not go with that sinful flow. When there is a break in conversation try to change the subject.
Choose among these attitude when someone tries to gossip with us:
• Walk away.
• Change the subject.
• Directly state, “I don’t want to talk about __________.”
• Directly state, “I don’t like talking about other people because I don’t like them talking about me.” That’s definitely a conversation cutter.
• Reply, “I hadn’t heard that about that!! Let’s go ask him/her.” (Gossipers are cowards, this will end the gossip immediately)
→ Stay away from gossipers
We are known by our friends, think about it.
Stop all the saying that we’re talking like that to help people, we have experts who go to school for years to do that, NO, we are not talking about people for their own good. We’re gossiping. If we really want to help someone, talk to the person directly.
Hope this helps. Much love! ♥