This is one of the Ramadhan phenomenon that I noted — italic, bold,
underline, font color : RED — I had this massive intention to write about this on my blog, subhanAllah…
Who doesn’t know this super cute looking guy, his name is Maher Zein. Caramel skin, well dressed, killing smile, good teeth, pretty eyes, beautiful voice and looking so Islamic. Oh yes, I know him. I saw him being posted over and over in facebook, my friends profile picture is his smiling face, and I saw his video clip called “InshaAllah” played in a public transport on Ramadhan when I got home from work, that was also the first time I listened to his one full song.
I never listened to music by intention anymore, why? I wrote it on this post. But sometimes I don’t have any choice from TV commercials, public transport, public places, etc. Alhamdulillah Qur’an recitation on my phone made me happy and really helped me on my stressed hours. I also take my headphones anywhere on long drive, to avoid my brain to be exposed to music along the way. So, since Maher Zein era, I never really listened to him. I have curiosity, but alhamdulillah I never fell into that trap.
Why am I writing this? I’m gonna share few experience regarding ‘Maher Zein’ 🙂
One of my friend, call her ‘A’, she had this rush to buy the original CDs, which was a bit difficult to find since it was Ramadhan, ‘religious music’ sale was rocketing to the seventh sky, subhanAllah. So, she went to this store over and over and over to spy on the CD, if it’s available or not. She was extremely excited to buy eventhough she had all songs on her phone.
I was like, this is no difference compare to me a long time ago having Jon Bon Jovi fever. What’s the difference? These guys made girls crazy, they are like ‘rock star’ — well, Bon Jovi IS a rock star, but even if Maher Zein is ‘islamically packaged’ the level of craziness that these guys spread to the ladies are all the same —
My cousin, she has the music on her cell-phone. She listened to it over and over and over. She know how a great of a father Maher Zein is — before that, I thought he was single 😀 how did she know? let it remains a mystery —, how beautiful his voice is, how handsome he is, how cool the way he dressed is, how intoxicating his smile is, and at last but not least how noble is the lyrics he sings :p
Her husband, looked at me with this painful look… And I knew that he was jealous — poor guy —
I don’t know about what happened in another part of the world, but here, Maher Zein is HUGE!! Everyone, young, old, woman, men, and everything in between are super crazy about him. This guy, Maher Zein, is an industrial product. He is a character, his image is created so commercially, his look is polished to please the eyes, and give him Islamic touch and there you go, the product is ready to sale. He is a celebrity in a music industry. That’s a fact. No, he is not a da’ee.
I will not going to push my opinions to people not to listen to this cute guy anymore. But I want to challenge everyone out there with these questions.
1. If he is not so cute, will you be so addicted?
2. Is it true, by listening him makes you remember Allah more? Or makes you love him more?
3. If it is the message of Allah subhana wa taala you truly love, give me one reason why you listen to him more than you listen to Qur’an?
We need alternatives of entertainment, I know. But this is too much. 😀
Waiting for your respond. Much love! ♥
Alhamdulillah, my Ramadhan was great, and my Eid was crowded. I felt like I wanted to talk all about my Ramadhan and Eid experience but I have one urgent issue to ramble about 😀 Rejecting marriage proposals — hooooo —. This is a serious issue that some women loves to brag about, you know, how popular and pretty they are by the authentic proof of so many proposals they are considering and rejecting — yah, I know some of them 😀 — I have some reflection that I wanted to share later but let me shout this out to the world : SOME GUYS ARE STOOPID!! — *sigh* finally I said it —
So, I rejected another 2 proposals during last Ramadhan. And I don’t know, these two guys seemed to conspire against me! They both have the same nickname for me : extremist — hahaha — Since it’s been a while for me not to write, I think I will let my words just flow. One of the guys, has this perfect chocolate milk skin, he’s very handsome — I did try to lower my gaze but what can I do… At some seconds I did see him, okay… Maybe minutes — And another one knows how to buy perfume and shoes. Those are the positive part of the story and definitely were not the reasons of me rejecting them. Here you go.
1. The handsome choco milk guy’s family asked for dowry.
So, the guy is not as religious as I was expected, but not bad, he is trying to be better — or so how the people around him said —. Plus, he does not smoke — so hard to find one here, subhanAllah — So, he asked me what my dowry is 😀 Me, seriously I don’t need a man to afford me, I can afford myself. I don’t need another man to protect me, I have 3 brothers to do that. So, I told him what the dowry was and since it was so easy he was happy. But then… his family asked (to be exact, insisted) for dowry from me, at least USD $10,000. — clearing throat —
I was like….. WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
The reason was, this man is highly educated, his family invested a lot on his education so they think it will be such a waste if the rest of his life will be spent for a girl. The girl will just enjoy the effort, so she needs to pay for the good future ahead. Not that I couldn’t afford it, don’t get me wrong, but haaaaay… that is just so wrong in many level. So, they think he will not be as lucky to have ME? Huh?! So, no thank you very much.
2. The guy with nice perfume and great shoes… smokes cigarettes like Hogwarts School of Wizard Train.
Smoking is haram. No more explanation on why I hate it.
And when azan comes, he just sat there and blew smoke. The masjid is only 3 minutes walk. And he just sat there… Probably waiting for the imam calls him by name and scream, “We will not start the salah without you!!”
And they both called me extremist for not willing to negotiate with the culture and civilization. Apparently, now, it is okay for girls giving dowry to men since she will get so much in return after marriage. And apparently, smoking is the sign of masculinity — this kind of man needs to meet some gays that smokes —, and salah needs not to be done on time, we can do it within times, we can delay…
I’ve been rejecting proposals, but these were I think most annoying ones because they are trying to convince me that my consideration is wrong!! They were insulting my intelligence!! Seriously?! My intelligence?! And this guy keeps messaging me to my Blackberry of wise advice on why smoking is allowed in Islam because we need to adapt, we need to embrace the speed of civilization. Okay, deleted from contacts, alhamdulillah..
My teacher once told me, I do not need to lower my standard, I only need to increase my quality to be worthy of the kind of man. And the fact that one died, one stucked on his place for political reasons, and one needed to make his parents happy by marrying his cousin 😆 My time had not come yet, don’t push it… I believe her, I do ♥
Okay enough ramblings for tonight, they can call me extremist, whatever…
InshaAllah next time I will wear my responsible adult costume and write another post. Much love! ♥
This is the writing of Paulo Coelho that I really love. Since it is free distribution, and I haven’t done anything for my blog for a while, I thought of sharing it here. For me, this is very inspritational, mashaAllah…
Manual for Climbing Mountains :
A] Choose the mountain you want to climb: don’t pay attention to what other people say, such as “that one’s more beautiful” or “this one’s easier”. You’ll be spending lots of energy and enthusiasm to reach your objective, so you’re the only one responsible and you should be sure of what you’re doing.
B] Know how to get close to it: mountains are often seen from far off – beautiful, interesting, full of challenges. But what happens when we try to draw closer? Roads run all around them, flowers grow between you and your objective, what seemed so clear on the map is tough in real life. So try all the paths and all the tracks until eventually one day you’re standing in front of the top that you yearn to reach.
C] Learn from someone who has already been up there: no matter how unique you feel, there is always someone who has had the same dream before you and ended up leaving marks that can make your journey easier; places to hang the rope, trails, broken branches to make the walking easier. The climb is yours, so is the responsibility, but don’t forget that the experience of others can help a lot.
D] When seen up close, dangers are controllable: when you begin to climb the mountain of your dreams, pay attention to the surroundings. There are cliffs, of course. There are almost imperceptible cracks in the mountain rock. There are stones so polished by storms that they have become as slippery as ice. But if you know where you are placing each footstep, you will notice the traps and how to get around them.
E] The landscape changes, so enjoy it: of course, you have to have an objective in mind – to reach the top. But as you are going up, more things can be seen, and it’s no bother to stop now and again and enjoy the panorama around you. At every meter conquered, you can see a little further, so use this to discover things that you still had not noticed.
F] Respect your body: you can only climb a mountain if you give your body the attention it deserves. You have all the time that life grants you, as long as you walk without demanding what can’t be granted. If you go too fast you will grow tired and give up half way there. If you go too slow, night will fall and you will be lost. Enjoy the scenery, take delight in the cool spring water and the fruit that nature generously offers you, but keep on walking.
G] Respect your soul: don’t keep repeating “I’m going to make it”. Your soul already knows that, what it needs is to use the long journey to be able to grow, stretch along the horizon, touch the sky. An obsession does not help you at all to reach your objective, and even ends up taking the pleasure out of the climb. But pay attention: also, don’t keep saying “it’s harder than I thought”, because that will make you lose your inner strength.
H] Be prepared to climb one kilometer more: the way up to the top of the mountain is always longer than you think. Don’t fool yourself, the moment will arrive when what seemed so near is still very far. But since you were prepared to go beyond, this is not really a problem.
I] Be happy when you reach the top: cry, clap your hands, shout to the four winds that you did it, let the wind – the wind is always blowing up there – purify your mind, refresh your tired and sweaty feet, open your eyes, clean the dust from your heart. It feels so good, what was just a dream before, a distant vision, is now part of your life, you did it!
J] Make a promise: now that you have discovered a force that you were not even aware of, tell yourself that from now on you will use this force for the rest of your days. Preferably, also promise to discover another mountain, and set off on another adventure.
K] Tell your story: yes, tell your story! Give your example. Tell everyone that it’s possible, and other people will then have the courage to face their own mountains.
Jazakumullah khairan for your messages and mails, I will try to catch up with my blog world inshaAllah… ♥ !
Sometimes, there are times when the road feels empty. Have you ever felt like that, walking too fast, alone, spreading optimism and smile but inside we feel so dry? I have, many times, last time was… two days ago.. 😥 I am too busy these days, I don’t have enough time to spend with my friends, real life and online, I don’t have time to blog and blog-walking, I don’t have the time to read books peacefully (always in a hurry), it’s just so stressful.
Being involved in da’wah, and making a promise that I will not take any worldly reward for it, can sometimes be so tiring. Firstly, because many will ask for your time but since they don’t pay, they think our time is not very valuable (What can we do? Everywhere, everything is measured by money, even in the field of da’wah). Secondly, it is human nature when we are less optimist and excited when we don’t see any visible result of what we do.
So, yesterday, I was waiting for the dentist to open, tiredly walking on a book store. I didn’t plan to buy anything, I was just looking around, my head was empty, seriously I felt so tired physically and mentally. Out of nowhere, there was this thought on my head, why I should do all this? These people don’t care about you, they only want to make their events successful. Now that you’re tired, who cares? Is there any text asking how are you today? People only want you to be happy and energic, FOR THEM!
SubhanAllah, dramatic isn’t? 😀 Well, I made promise that I will try to press down any desire to complain and ramble. It’s just sound and makes me look stupid and it will slowly block my ability to be grateful for what I have. But that’s what happened. I was too tired.
Still looking around, I then saw a book without plastic wrap, then I just randomly opened it, and my eyes stumbled to the quote, from a verse of Qur’an,
“… Allah is the best to take care of, and He is the Most Merciful of those who show mercy!” [Yusuf : 64]
That’s how the author quoted the verse, she cut the verse in two and put the last half into her book..
Have you ever felt that goosebumps when you found something in Qur’an that really talks to you? Your eyes felt hot, your knees felt weak, felt like you don’t have enough calories to make your grip hold something? The feeling is .. priceless.. 😥 (I didn’t cry at the bookstore, I swear! 😀 -)
Alhamdulillah, Allah subhana wa taala did not let me drown into my negative thoughts for long, only for few minutes. I am so grateful.. Alhamdulillah.. ♥
This is a very sensitive issue, gossip. I know, I know, some of us really don’t want to talk about this, because then we have to admit that gossiping is actually an addiction. We just stay away from this issue and take it like a normal thing, right? Been there and still fighting to get out from it, subhanAllah, it is sooooo hard!!
We live in a gossip-orientated society so naturally almost everyone loves to gossip. Many do it and do not even realize it because it is second nature for them. Men and women are both guilty of it, but women tend to get the blame, and we have to admit it, we love it, right? No offense, Sisters.. Brothers gossip, too… but us, Sisters, we kinda crave for it. LOL
So, what is the definition of ‘gossip’? Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wasalam had clearly explained it in hadith,
Prophet Muhammad said :”Do you know what backbiting is?” They said, “God and His Messenger know best.” He then said, “It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike.” Someone asked him, “But what if what I say is true?” The Messenger of God said, “If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him.“ [Muslim]
So, just like another kind of addiction, gossiping needs treatment. I’m going to share some applicable steps for us to stop this bad habit. I hope, by me, a Sister, will make it easier for us all to realize that this is an extremely serious issue. Come on, who loves some guys with huge beard telling us what to do while they don’t know how hard it is to avoid this habit as a woman? This is a huge issue! But… GRRRRH! so hard to avoid in the world of woman, guys just don’t understand!
“Behold, you received it on your tongues, and said out of your mouths things which you had no knowledge; and you thought it to be a light matter, while it was most serious in the sight of God” [An Noor (24): 15]
So, these are the steps, people :
→ Avoid suspicions and analyzing why people act the way they do.
Come on, we’re not a psychologist, we don’t have enough basic foundations to analyze people’s behavior, let the experts do that. And plus we need to keep a wise words in mind from the early great scholars of Muslim, Hamdun al-Qassar, he said;
“If a friend among your friends errs, make seventy excuses for them. If your hearts are unable to do this, then know that the shortcoming is in your own selves”
Wise man, mashaAllah …
→ Stop going to places that we are prone to gossip.
So, if we know that getting on the phone with a friend is going to turn into a gossip hour then we have to find a way to eliminate it by either not answering the phone or cutting the conversation short. We may have to do this until we undo our bad habit. And good thing is, we will save more money on phone bill also more time reading books 😀
→ Do it silently
When we tell our gossip buddy that we will never gossip anymore, it will not going to do us any good. So keep it inside our own head, if we find ourselves in a conversation with a gossip buddy, although we may have no other choice but to listen, do not go with that sinful flow. When there is a break in conversation try to change the subject.
Choose among these attitude when someone tries to gossip with us:
• Walk away.
• Change the subject.
• Directly state, “I don’t want to talk about __________.”
• Directly state, “I don’t like talking about other people because I don’t like them talking about me.” That’s definitely a conversation cutter.
• Reply, “I hadn’t heard that about that!! Let’s go ask him/her.” (Gossipers are cowards, this will end the gossip immediately)
→ Stay away from gossipers
We are known by our friends, think about it.
Stop all the saying that we’re talking like that to help people, we have experts who go to school for years to do that, NO, we are not talking about people for their own good. We’re gossiping. If we really want to help someone, talk to the person directly.
Hope this helps. Much love! ♥